If the conversation is flowing, go for it as soon as possible.If you get a sense she isn’t that in to you, build some more comfort by asking about her, before proposing the date. Ask: As with the transition message, you should ask this as part of an on-going conversation, not randomly out of the blue. But you are implying that you are about to ask her out.You’re all set to make your next move – the first date proposal.
You haven’t asked her to message you or if she wants to Whatsapp. You’ve also forgotten your name, and haven’t closed the previous conversation. 20% (I totally made up that stat because I never send a message like this! IMPORTANT: Please, PLEASE do not abuse her trust in giving you her number by acting like a man-child.
Tinder, Happn and these other fancy apps hadn’t been invented. After completing my profile I sat back and waited for the messages to come pouring in. Just like in real life it was up to me as the man to make the approach. I don’t care what app or dating site you are on, as a man you need to be initiating conversations with tens of girls before you get a response. Below I’m going to outline a strategy you can use to ensure you are not one of those men, and increase the number of women you get from online dating to a first date. It is your role as a man to ask her out and either be rejected or win the prize. That shit is not only needy but it’s also incredibly creepy.
Right now I would guess my response rate to an initial message is about 5%. Because if you get a response to your opening message then your odds of getting a first date are excellent, especially if you do it right. I’m not going to teach you what to send in an opening message, or how to engage in the conversation. And if you follow the process your chances of being rejected will dramatically decrease (you will still be rejected though…many times…deal with it). Chatting online is not about: The purpose of chatting online is to make her feel attracted and safe enough to meet you in person.
When you read my strategy below you’ll see what I mean. I don’t pay too much attention to this, but here are some things to consider: In other words, there is no ideal time to message. That means you don’t care if you are rejected (and as I said before, you will get rejected, many, many times). It’s time to convert your online chat to a first date.
Learn the patterns of each girl you are talking to and make decisions accordingly. Your mind will tell you that you are more likely to be rejected and should prolong the messaging phase to avoid the pain. You shouldn’t care if you get rejected because you are an Alpha male and you know you have an abundance of women in your life (even if this isn’t true yet, you must believe it will happen). After about 10-20 back and forth messages (keeping them short, 1-2 sentences each) you are going to move her from the website or app to Whats App.
Most girls, especially if you haven’t met them in person won’t do this and will make you suggest another day.